Thursday, January 19, 2012
Monday, January 16, 2012
just some more thinking out loud about religion
I've just been doing some more thinking out loud about religion. Religion, and politics, are topics that most people will not discuss during casual/civil conversation. While avoiding this discussion seems to be prudent at times, I think that we miss the opportunity to learn from different people and thereby refine our position in these matters.
The difference seems to be between casual and civil. It might be appropriate to avoid religion in casual conversation but I think it is certainly appropriate to discuss religion during civil conversation. I think it is only healthy when individuals can engage in a free exchange of ideas and still remain civil to each other. After all, Eleanor Roosevelt said "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." I do not claim to be a great mind but find nothing wrong with acting like one once in a while.
So I will from time to time post some of my thinking about religion and invite the comments of others so that we might have a civil discussion.
The difference seems to be between casual and civil. It might be appropriate to avoid religion in casual conversation but I think it is certainly appropriate to discuss religion during civil conversation. I think it is only healthy when individuals can engage in a free exchange of ideas and still remain civil to each other. After all, Eleanor Roosevelt said "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." I do not claim to be a great mind but find nothing wrong with acting like one once in a while.
So I will from time to time post some of my thinking about religion and invite the comments of others so that we might have a civil discussion.
Saturday, January 14, 2012
just some thinking outloud: religion
Just some thinking outloud, with some research, has strengthened my spirituality and allowed me to look at religion with different eyes. I have found that there is a huge difference between spirituality and religion. That difference has become very important to me.
Spirituality is an inner, life controlling, state of mind for me. It determines my actions and reactions. The state of my spirituality is continually expressed to others by my demeanor and attitude. I judge the strength of my spirituality by determining whether or not I am serene and happy. My spirituality is a very personal thing between me and God. This state of personal spirituality does not allow other people to affect it.
Religion has come to mean many different things to different people. Most people seem to have a prejudice against religion and often cite examples of "religious" people acting in very non-religious ways. This prejudice seems to allow them to denigrate anything related to religion or anyone professing religion.
What is not readily apparent to most is that these people prejudiced against religion are, by making a judgment, expressing a degree of spirituality. That spirituality is the basis they use to determine right or wrong.
Spirituality is an inner, life controlling, state of mind for me. It determines my actions and reactions. The state of my spirituality is continually expressed to others by my demeanor and attitude. I judge the strength of my spirituality by determining whether or not I am serene and happy. My spirituality is a very personal thing between me and God. This state of personal spirituality does not allow other people to affect it.
Religion has come to mean many different things to different people. Most people seem to have a prejudice against religion and often cite examples of "religious" people acting in very non-religious ways. This prejudice seems to allow them to denigrate anything related to religion or anyone professing religion.
What is not readily apparent to most is that these people prejudiced against religion are, by making a judgment, expressing a degree of spirituality. That spirituality is the basis they use to determine right or wrong.
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
just thinking out loud about a dichotomy
This is just some thinking out loud about a dichotomy I recognize which I have not been able to resolve. It may be that this requires no resolution yet it is on my mind
I do not believe the government should be doing things for people that they should be doing for themselves, I think if we give up that right to government it will be used to control us in many different ways.
I have a grandson who went through a drug rehabilitation program. He definitely needed the program but had no insurance or assets to pay for the program. I am sure that government monies (tax dollars) were used to pay for his participation. That disturbs me.
How do I resolve the fact that my grandson received some help, not a cure, because tax dollars made the program available to all when I don’t want the government involved in this type of a situation. I know that he, or his family, should have paid for this program. That didn’t happen because of an inability to pay on his and their part.
He and by extension I benefited from the expenditure of tax dollars. I want my grandson to get all of the help possible. I just have a problem with that help coming from the government.
I do not believe the government should be doing things for people that they should be doing for themselves, I think if we give up that right to government it will be used to control us in many different ways.
I have a grandson who went through a drug rehabilitation program. He definitely needed the program but had no insurance or assets to pay for the program. I am sure that government monies (tax dollars) were used to pay for his participation. That disturbs me.
How do I resolve the fact that my grandson received some help, not a cure, because tax dollars made the program available to all when I don’t want the government involved in this type of a situation. I know that he, or his family, should have paid for this program. That didn’t happen because of an inability to pay on his and their part.
He and by extension I benefited from the expenditure of tax dollars. I want my grandson to get all of the help possible. I just have a problem with that help coming from the government.
Monday, January 9, 2012
just some thinking out loud about My Grandson
I have just been doing some thinking out loud about an ongoing situation in our family for many years. We have a grandson who is an addict. He has lied to us, stolen from us, disrupted family gatherings, and strained family relationships, yet very seldom, if it all, did or does he apologize for any of his actions or try to change.
His relationship with his mother is problematic. He never had a father figure as a worthy example for him to follow. His father had some serious mental problems, became addicted to cocaine, and finally committed suicide. The ultimate act of selfishness on the fathers part as far as I’m concerned. This left the boy (man) with a definite sense of abandonment. His mother has not been strong enough to guide him, particularly in difficult times. Now the boy/man uses guilt against his mother and other family members to get the things that he wants without him making any meaningful effort to achieve them by his own effort. It seems like he feels that just because he is her son and in the family he is entitled to anything and everything that the family has and he wants or needs. If they don’t give, he simply takes what he wants.
I really am at a loss as to how to handle the situation, I think his mother has finally come around to the realization that she has the right to a life of her own and should not be required to continue to provide a livelihood for her son, a man, who makes little effort to sustain himself. After all, he will soon be 27 years old and should be a man, has fathered a son of his own (who is without his father in his life), continues in his addictive behavior, and still wants and expects to be cared for as if were still a child and needs to do little other than play.
One of the major factors of the dissension within the family is that his grandmother has decided that he is entitled to food and shelter and some financial support just because he is her grandson, I don’t have any problem with that, if the man were trying to provide for himself and just needed help. But now it seems that he thinks that he doesn’t need to do anything other than ask for someone to give him what is required for him to live. He seems to think that he can pursue his wants and others will care for his needs, The grandmother seems to blame the mother for most of the problem yet assigns little blame to the addict. She thinks that the mother should continue to provide for the son even if the son is unwilling to do little if anything to help himself.
Examples: (only two of many)
1. He went through detoxification and rehab for his addiction. To get out of rehab, he had to have a place to live. He agreed to enter a halfway house so he could get out of rehab. There was a waiting list for admission to the halfway house, so he was allowed to move back in with his mother while waiting. When it was time to go to the halfway house he said no to going. He said he lied about going to the halfway house so he could get out of rehab. The halfway house would’ve provided for his basic needs such as food and shelter. But he decided he didn’t want that. He wanted something else. He apparently wanted to rely on his mother and his grandmother for the things that he could’ve gotten elsewhere through some effort on his part. Apparently he has no misgivings about relying on family members even when in doing so he is creating hardships for those he is relying upon as long as he gets what he wants, how he wants it.
2. The man could get a link card (food stamps) and get foodstuffs so that he wouldn’t go hungry. But, he doesn’t even want to do that. He won’t, or at least hasn’t, made the effort to fill out the paperwork necessary to get the link card. Yet, he has his girl friend visiting him in his mothers home and she enjoys the hospitality of his mother just as he does. This hospitality extends to his friends as well. His girl friend and other friends stay for days at a time imposing on a hospitality provided by the mother for her son. The son extends the hospitality (obligation) of his mother and grandmother to include his friends and girlfriend. He seems to think that he can pursue his wants and others will care for his needs, The grandmother seems to blame the mother for most of the problem yet assigns little blame to the addict. She thinks that the mother should continue to provide for the son even if the son is unwilling to do much of anything to help himself.
His relationship with his mother is problematic. He never had a father figure as a worthy example for him to follow. His father had some serious mental problems, became addicted to cocaine, and finally committed suicide. The ultimate act of selfishness on the fathers part as far as I’m concerned. This left the boy (man) with a definite sense of abandonment. His mother has not been strong enough to guide him, particularly in difficult times. Now the boy/man uses guilt against his mother and other family members to get the things that he wants without him making any meaningful effort to achieve them by his own effort. It seems like he feels that just because he is her son and in the family he is entitled to anything and everything that the family has and he wants or needs. If they don’t give, he simply takes what he wants.
I really am at a loss as to how to handle the situation, I think his mother has finally come around to the realization that she has the right to a life of her own and should not be required to continue to provide a livelihood for her son, a man, who makes little effort to sustain himself. After all, he will soon be 27 years old and should be a man, has fathered a son of his own (who is without his father in his life), continues in his addictive behavior, and still wants and expects to be cared for as if were still a child and needs to do little other than play.
One of the major factors of the dissension within the family is that his grandmother has decided that he is entitled to food and shelter and some financial support just because he is her grandson, I don’t have any problem with that, if the man were trying to provide for himself and just needed help. But now it seems that he thinks that he doesn’t need to do anything other than ask for someone to give him what is required for him to live. He seems to think that he can pursue his wants and others will care for his needs, The grandmother seems to blame the mother for most of the problem yet assigns little blame to the addict. She thinks that the mother should continue to provide for the son even if the son is unwilling to do little if anything to help himself.
Examples: (only two of many)
1. He went through detoxification and rehab for his addiction. To get out of rehab, he had to have a place to live. He agreed to enter a halfway house so he could get out of rehab. There was a waiting list for admission to the halfway house, so he was allowed to move back in with his mother while waiting. When it was time to go to the halfway house he said no to going. He said he lied about going to the halfway house so he could get out of rehab. The halfway house would’ve provided for his basic needs such as food and shelter. But he decided he didn’t want that. He wanted something else. He apparently wanted to rely on his mother and his grandmother for the things that he could’ve gotten elsewhere through some effort on his part. Apparently he has no misgivings about relying on family members even when in doing so he is creating hardships for those he is relying upon as long as he gets what he wants, how he wants it.
2. The man could get a link card (food stamps) and get foodstuffs so that he wouldn’t go hungry. But, he doesn’t even want to do that. He won’t, or at least hasn’t, made the effort to fill out the paperwork necessary to get the link card. Yet, he has his girl friend visiting him in his mothers home and she enjoys the hospitality of his mother just as he does. This hospitality extends to his friends as well. His girl friend and other friends stay for days at a time imposing on a hospitality provided by the mother for her son. The son extends the hospitality (obligation) of his mother and grandmother to include his friends and girlfriend. He seems to think that he can pursue his wants and others will care for his needs, The grandmother seems to blame the mother for most of the problem yet assigns little blame to the addict. She thinks that the mother should continue to provide for the son even if the son is unwilling to do much of anything to help himself.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
just some thinking out loud about: Government?
This is an example of me with just some thinking out loud about: Government?
Why do I think the government has taken over so many of the functions of family and friends?
Has this happened because family and friends have failed to perform their normal function?
Or is it the fact that government has chosen to take over these functions, under guise of equality for all, so that it might be more in control of the life of the people it governs?
Does this mean that politicians assume control of functions that normally would not be theirs and thereby attain power and authority over us?
Am I wrong to think the government (politicians) have too much power and authority over me?
Why do I think the government has taken over so many of the functions of family and friends?
Has this happened because family and friends have failed to perform their normal function?
Or is it the fact that government has chosen to take over these functions, under guise of equality for all, so that it might be more in control of the life of the people it governs?
Does this mean that politicians assume control of functions that normally would not be theirs and thereby attain power and authority over us?
Am I wrong to think the government (politicians) have too much power and authority over me?
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