Random Ramblings & Rantings

Random Ramblings & Rantings
This blog is for me to "voice" my thoughts.
I, of course, think about many different things at different times which means I may seem to ramble at times and even rant at times.
I welcome your comments hoping that they will lead to discussion.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

just some thinking outloud: addict - stealing

Just some thinking outloud has led me to recognize many frustrations.  Many of my frustrations arise from my compelled interaction with an addict.

My frustration with an addict includes him stealing from me. I'm talking about more than one type of stealing. He steals from me mentally and spiritually as well as materially. The theft of my peace of mind is more upsetting than the actual loss of a physical object.

What I want to talk about right now is the material loss.  Over the years in dealing with an addict I've had many things disappear or take legs and walk off.  I've lost carpentry tools, mechanical tools, lawn and garden tools, incidental valuable articles, and lots of money.  No one of these losses was very large in an of itself  but combined they come to quite a substantial sum.  As these losses occurred, I often said,  "he didn't have to steal that, I would have given it to him." Now I have come to the point that I am not so sure I would give him anything.  I am almost to the point where I'm ready to pursue legal action. I am beginning to believe that he would be better off in jail than continuing to live as he does.

In the past I've bailed him out of jail. That money was never to be seen again. Most of the time I didn't even get a thank you for it. I've come to the point now that I think I will refuse any other request for bail money.

I believe there is a solution to the problem. That solution requires a change. The change must be on the part of the addict. I realize that if he keeps doing the same things in the same way he cannot expect a different result.

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